Recommended Resources

In the last decade, a growing number of excellent resources* for partners of sex addicts have been published or created. There are dozens of books, websites and resources Dr. Manning highly recommends and uses in her work.

The following list highlights a handful of resources that are intended to complement specific therapeutic interventions or to enhance topics raised in individual or group therapy with Dr. Manning.



  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means


  • Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts by Vicki Tidwell Palmer


  • Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts (2015 edition) by Stephanie Carnes, Mari A. Lee & Anthony D. Rodriguez


  • Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back by Stephen Arterburn & Jason B. Martinkus


  • The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography by Wendy Maltz & Larry Maltz


  • Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss


  • What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Anne Croshaw


  • How to Talk to Your Kids about Pornography by Educate and Empower Kids


  • How Can I Forgive You: The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To by Janis Abrahms Spring


  • The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick


  • The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Robin Stern


  • Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy T. Behary & Daniel J. Siegel


  • Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal: The Essential Tools for Healing by Kevin Skinner


  • Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine


  • Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body by Peter A. Levine


  • The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk


  • The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner (paperback and audiobook)


  • Facing Codependency by Pia Mellody


  • The Intimacy Factor by Pia Mellody


  • Growing Yourself Back Up by John Lee


Websites & Links:

  • Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists:






  • Affair Recovery videos on YouTube




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*The information contained herein is not therapeutic advice or a substitute for therapy. It should not be used to diagnose or to treat any mental health issue. Neither Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS nor Dr. Jill Manning, PLLC is responsible for the content, claims or representations of the listed resources or sites. These resources are informational only and may or may not be applicable to you and your therapeutic needs. Neither Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS nor Dr. Jill Manning endorses any of the businesses, individuals or any other entities associated with this resource list. Neither Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS nor Dr. Jill Manning is connected with the sale or promotion of any goods and services listed in these resources.