Boundary Violations: A Self-Assessment


This practical self-assessment tool is designed for betrayed individuals who are in the middle or latter stages of betrayal trauma healing work. This document outlines a thoughtfully curated checklist of over two hundred common boundary violations to help individuals identify where personal boundaries need to be strengthened or changed. At the end of the document, self-reflective questions help individuals clarify how to act on the insights gleaned from the self-assessment pages.


This self-assessment tool aims to increase self-awareness of one’s past and current issues with boundary violations. Over two hundred boundary violations are carefully organized according to internal and external boundary categories. Boundary violations associated with emotional, intellectual, social, financial, spiritual, physical, and sexual health are all included in the checklist.


Additionally, eleven self-reflective questions at the end of the document help individuals clarify how to act on the insights gleaned from the checklist. The self-reflective questions are presented in a worksheet-style format. This document may be integrated into individual, group, or couples therapy work.


Designed for:

  1. Licensed and certified mental health providers and coaches who work with betrayed individuals.
  2. Individuals who are healing from betrayal trauma.

23 pages

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