Eleven Responses to Boundary Violations


A great deal of attention is given to boundaries in betrayal trauma healing work, yet many betrayed individuals struggle to know how to respond when a boundary has been violated after it is implemented. This educational document clearly outlines the advantages and disadvantages of eleven different types of responses to boundary violations. The goal of this document is to help betrayed partners gain insight into the responses they have chosen in the past, as well as the types of responses that will best serve them moving forward.


Although identifying and communicating personal boundaries is a foundational component of healing from betrayal trauma, it is equally important to know how to respond when an established boundary is violated or ignored. This document outlines the differences between eleven different kinds of responses and highlights which responses support long-term change. Self-reflective questions are included.


Designed for:

  • Licensed and certified mental health providers and coaches who work with betrayed partners.
  • Individuals who are healing from betrayal trauma.

4 pages

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